Grip too tight, afraid it would suffocate and die. Loosen the grip, afraid it would just fly away and never come back.
Yep, what a predicament indeed.
How much care and concern is enough?
How much to care for your friend that they do not feel you have neglected them?
How much to care for your friend that it is just nice and does not suffocate them?
How much breathing space is enough and not too much?
How much "time to be alone" should we give our friend so that they can have their own breathing space?
How much "time to be alone" should we give our friend but at the same time they don't feel we have neglected them?
How much is enough? How much is justnice?
Well, eventhough I don't have the exact or complete answer, as usual, I just do my best. I will love and take care of the bird as best as I could but then I would let it be free. It can choose to fly around and then come back ... or it can choose to fly off and never come back. I just do my best to treat the bird kindly and the bird has the freedom to choose whether what I have done is good enough or not. As someone once said, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it is yours. If it does not ... it was never meant to be right from the beginning."
4 comments:
Matakecil,
We are often afraid to lose because we have expectations of the other person. We expect our kind deeds, our sincere thoughts to be reciprocal in nature, and when things do not turn out that way, we become bitterly dissappointed.
The best way is not to have any expectations from that person at all. Sounds strange, but at least it minimises our chances of getting hurt. However, it does not mean we have to be less sincere or put less effort in the friendship. We do our part, let fate decide the rest.
You see, some people are so accustomed to being well-treated, they think they rightly deserve it.
However, in life, there is no such thing which you rightly deserve. Either you put an effort towards it or you don't.
My 2 cents.
Have a great weekend!
wellsaid indeed miracle8. and that's why, frankly, i have am already way beyond expecting anything from friendships. i take delight and joy in caring for my friends and stop short of expecting anything in return ... since it is not always easy. so, i am learning to just enjoy the journey instead of the destination ... and often, things might turn out in ways we least expect ... but whatever it is, i treasure now. whatever happens in the future ... we can only do our best in the present. have a great weekend to you too miracle8 :)
Well.. at least you know there is one person who will help you water the plant and put fertiliser this time... MOI.
:D
haha, yep, sure do now ... hehe :)
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